Try Jorte on marketplace. Its Free, and gives multiple views. It shows whats in the main calender, but oh so much better. So you don't need to sync it separately. Plus you get loads of widgets to display your appointments on the home screen. Really excellent. Of course, if you've just upgraged to 2.1, your Dell PC Suite has probably stopped recongnising your phone, so for the moment, you'll be stuffed if you're trying to sync with Outlook. Get it sorted DELL.
You need to use third party software to sync more than just contacts. www.syncdroid.net lists most software that syncs with Android devices, so that's where I suggest you go. They have a chart that lists what the software syncs (calendar, contacts, notes, tasks), the price (many free), and give an overview of each one.